Mum makes people ‘extremely uncomfortable’ with ‘overtly sensual’ photos on her walls

A mum has sought advise online as to whether she should hang her raunchy photos in her home – or whether it is inappropriate for her young daughter and friends to see

She doesn’t know whether it’s appropriate for her daughter to see (Stock Photo) (

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In a world where women are often made to feel insecure and conscious of their appearance, it’s important to empower ourselves with things that make us feel more confident. One woman decided to treat herself to a boudoir photoshoot to do just that, and she’s so proud of the way the saucy snaps turned out.

However, after admitting she’s contemplating putting them up around her home, the mum has struck up a debate online as some people are left wondering whether the ‘raunchy’ snaps are appropriate to have on show in front of children.

Taking to Mumsnet for advice, the mum explained that the sexy snaps make her feel “capable of anything” and wants to be reminded of that whenever she sees the photos that were “just a bit of fun”.

She added: “They really brought home to me that everyday me isn’t all I can be. That with a little extra expertise and resources I can do something very, very different, it’s such a great concept to get my head around and apply in general.”

Asking other mums online if it would be inappropriate to display the photos in her house, she stressed they weren’t “tacky or sleazy” and that she “wore less on the beach last month”, but wonders if it would be crossing a line. She added: “I really want to display some of the pictures…I’m wearing a full bra, Brazilian pants, and a jacket in some shots. No stockings, thongs or bondage-type undies. No handcuffs, but some hobby props (a hat a book and some pearls), [my daughter] sees me naked all the time (but I respect her privacy however she prefers and I don’t brazenly wander about naked.

“We have dogs that open doors, it’s unavoidable, not deliberate or overtly liberal. She locks the bathroom, but will happily yell for me to get her a towel. All no big deal in an all-girl household but the pics are overtly sensual. I do sometimes date and she knows about that in age-appropriate detail.”

However, it’s the connection her daughter may make with the photos and her dating life that the mum is most worried about. Even though she explained they would be up in her bedroom, she’s still worried about what her daughter may think and would have to tell her daughter not to tell anyone about them.

She further detailed: “My biggest concern is that she will connect it with my dating (which is fairly new and not unconnected in that both are because I feel more sexy than I have for years) but it’s not that dating leads to needing to change to be attractive for dates.

“It’s feeling more attractive and exploring that through dating AND how I present myself now I have a bit more freedom from lone parenting. How much do I share? Is it creepy? Is it tacky, even though the pic itself isn’t? Or is it empowering and celebrating myself?

“I could have one without my face in and make out it’s not me, but that seems even weirder! I’m not going to hang it in the sitting room, but she’ll see it often in my room. So will her friends as they come in and out of her room because the only blank wall faces the door and our dogs open the door.

“We’ll have to have at least a chat about not telling my mother, all the neighbours, the greengrocer’s cat about it, what to say to her friends and not to let them photograph it! I just don’t think she’ll get it. I wouldn’t have got it at her age. I wouldn’t have got it 12 months ago! Is it unreasonable to expect her to get it with the right framing or should I wait?”

However other mums were quick to chime in with their opinions. One mum advised: “Honestly if you need a ‘chat’ about it, or to warn her friends not to take a photo of it, I wouldn’t display it. Keep them for yourself, I am glad it gave you a confidence boost though!” while another took a little more of a direct approach and said: “No don’t do it. My friend’s mum had one up and it was utterly cringy. I never knew where to look.”

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