“90 Day”’s Kim Menzies Clears Usman Umar from Her Home and Heart as He’s ‘Making Arrangements’ for Wife and Kids

While “the love isn’t there” between the exes anymore, a psychic told Kim her late mother wanted her to make “better choices” in the future

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Kim Menzies sits outside to burn photos of her relationship with Usman “Sojaboy” Umar.

Kim Menzies is officially moving on.

On Monday’s episode of 90 Day Diaries, the former 90 Day Fiancé: Before the 90 Days star self-filmed her life at home in America, including her decision to eliminate Usman “Sojaboy” Umar from her life.

“Usman and I are broken up. But we are friends,” she said. “I’m really trying to not text Usman every single day because we’re not going to be together.”

Footage captured by her son, Jamal, showed Kim putting things that belonged to Usman in a box, as well as some photos and mementos from their relationship. The change of decor came six months after their split.

“I’m not going to grow if I don’t move on or get over them, if I have all these pictures up and all that stuff, you know?” she said.

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Kim Menzies on 90 Day Diaries.

At the time the segment was filmed, Kim was still on friendly speaking terms with Usman, but she revealed he was making plans to start a family with someone else.

“We still talk, but like, the love isn’t there anymore, you know? He said he was making arrangements to go find his wife and have children. So why am I sitting here still calling him every day?” she questioned. “Why am I sitting here still texting him?  Why do I get so upset, you know?”

As part of the life update, Kim decided to speak with a psychic about her next love. When the psychic mentioned “loss,” Kim reflected on her broken engagement. It’s then the psychic said Kim’s mother came in with advice.

“What your mom is saying is the two of you were just in different places in your life. So it’s really about creating that distance in that space for the two of you to be able to like go off and live your own lives,” said the psychic.

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Kim Menzies burnt away reminders of her relationship with Usman Umar.

Looking ahead, Kim does have another relationship on the horizon — if the stars align. “This year for you is going to be about rapid growth change and about you finding your own stability and your own security and then preparing yourself for another relationship,” the psychic concluded. “Because I do feel like that’s coming for you, you know. But there’s a lot of work that you have to do for yourself first to be ready and prepared for that next relationship.”

Kim took the cleaning opportunity to burn the remnants of her relationship with Usman. She took the box outside and lit photos of the pair on fire as she looked ahead to a new chapter in her romantic life.

Usman’s latest relationship was with an American woman named Kiera on Instagram, which he announced last summer. The pair are no longer together, though — both Usman and Kiera have deleted all posts of each other from their Instagram accounts, and Kiera debuted a new love interest (who was endorsed by Usman’s 90 Day ex-wife Lisa Hamme in the Instagram comments).

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